This week, I was visiting my partner's work and when this one woman saw me (she knows we are expecting twins) she said "I don't know whether to congratulate you or give you my condolences." I was torn because I thought of all kinds of witty/bitchy responses, but felt that I shouldn't say them because this was one of my partner's colleagues. I just said "this is definitely a happy thing" and really, REALLY bit my tongue.
So my question is, in what universe is that an acceptable thing to say to someone who is pregnant? WHAT IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?
Here is what I wanted to say to her:
"Just because you can't handle your children, doesn't me that we won't be able to handle ours."
"The last time someone gave me condolences was at my mother's funeral, so let's go with congratulations."
"I think what you meant to say was 'how exciting!'"
"Aren't you supposed to be someone who knows the right things to say?" (she's a family consellor)
"That might be the most offensive thing that anyone has said to me this pregnancy!"
If anyone says anything inappropriate to you, please feel free to use one of these gems. I wish I would have.
If you have never encountered a pregnant lesbian before, or you have and you had the good sense not to ask but you are dying to know how it all came to be, here is my journey for my second (and third!) child - step by step.
Friday, August 26, 2011
Friday, August 5, 2011
19 weeks - halfway there!
I am so thrilled! I had my anatomy scan ultrasound this week and found out that we are having a boy and a girl. I really couldn't care less about the sexes, but it's cool to know and it makes it feel more real.
More importantly, the babies are fine and look great. I am feeling them wiggling around in there and it's starting to get more and more exciting.
Now, to find that minivan that we're going to need!...
More importantly, the babies are fine and look great. I am feeling them wiggling around in there and it's starting to get more and more exciting.
Now, to find that minivan that we're going to need!...
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